Many reasons why I chose to (civil) marry in Norway. Norway is the country which does not discriminate individual from one religion to another. It is even lawfully legal for same-sex marriage in Norway. Norwegian administration is very effective and corrupt-free when dealing with public service (in summer we may experience slower process as many workers are away for summer holiday), but generally we only need to deal with one to two public service office for this purpose. Way more cost and time effective than long and corrupt bureaucracy system in Indonesia. Norway has always been well-known for its reputation in human’s right, peace, and gender equality. You can read and understand why I prefer to make my lifetime promise within the following promise:
The text of vigselsformularet (it is read aloud in court)
Dear [The name of the bride and groom]
You have come here today to be devoted to married couples.
I will remind you of the great and important event when two people choose to live together in marriage. By entering into marriage, you promise each other the sense of solidarity and support in all walks of life, both in prosperity and in adversity.
But you promise each other more:
Marriage means that you promise each other’s love and faithfulness. To love each other’s love for life; it is the most difficult promise one can give. This requires that you set your objective seriously on their relationship, and it requires your sincere willingness to stretch you towards those goals, today and in the years ahead. This is what you promise each other here today.
By entering into marriage, you become a unit, but you also continue to be two independent and equal human beings. There is no contradiction between love and unity on the one hand and freedom and independence on the other. Love is also to show respect for each other.
This is the right I have, but also a duty imposed on me by law, to put the two of you now seriously at heart that you should live by the promise, that you give each other here.
(Vigsleren says to the woman in the heterosexual couple / the youngest person in the gays or lesbians pair)
I ask you first (the full name of the woman or the younger person)
Do you want (the full name of the man or the oldest person in the gays or lesbians pair), to accept (the partner’s name) who stands beside you as your beloved husband?
(When the woman and the youngest person in the gays or lesbians couple has answered “yes”, vigsleren says to the man or the oldest person in the gays or lesbians pair):
So I ask you, (the full name of the man or the oldest person in the gays or lesbians pair):
Do you want (the full name of the woman or the youngest person in the gays or lesbians pair), to accept (the partner’s name) who stands beside you as your beloved wife?
(When the man or the oldest of the couple gays or lesbians couple has answered “yes”, vigsleren says):
Since you now – in the presence of witnesses – have promised each other to live together in marriage, I declare you with this to be husband and wife.
Vigsleren cheers the happiness after marriage book is signed and the couple received a marriage certificate.
Wonderful! Really wonderful feeling I have for being able to make a promise like this in my wedding. For sometimes I was very afraid to make a promise of being a ready wife who will always hear and obey the husband and to accept the husband as my guidance and leader of life, as bind in a particular religion. But now…there is no need to worry anymore….
I am a happy wife who lives with my wonderful husband, my partner of life.
More information about civil marriage in Norway (only in Norwegian language):